Sex Parties in San Diego

[MaximusKahn]

Had some free time so I though I go to Thads' over the weekend. Fri night, and Saturday night. I decided to go stag.

One major observation that struck me immediately is that the women have gotten bigger, and I do not mean taller. And that there were a lot more of the bigger women there.

Friday there was a moderate crowd. Yes a few beauties, but the big girls dominated the choices by far. A lot couples were going off to private rooms. A few went to the rooms that offered a view, and there was a lot of socializing, but not too much open sex. The good news is that there were some kinky couples playing, and that a couple of Gangbangs erupted during the night, which I enjoyed. Me and another guy were taking turns fucking a little darling, as her man watched, and when we got done, she called us a couple of heathens. Made me laugh. We fucked her brains out.

One thing worth mentioning about the lifestyle expectations. This night I met a young guy, who I talked with at the bar, who said it was his first time at Thads. Sitting there he caught the eye of an older couple, may be in their 40's. She was clearly the best-looking woman I saw the whole night, bar none. She may have been a model at one time, and even still could be. Beautiful face, perfect tits, flat stomach, and a nice ass in awesome proportions. Shortly after that when I wondered back out by the fire pits, sure enough. The young guy was in the room with the sliding glass doors with her blowing him as her husband is fucking her. This lucky stud on his first night is in a spit roast with a stunningly beautiful woman. I was proud my boy was getting it his first night, and jealous at the same time as I watched action. I walk to the glass and smiled, he give me the thumbs up. The next thing he does is to start vaping while she sucking him. I'm like are you fucking kidding me. You got a mfm with the hottest women here, and you are vaping? He is also looking out through the sliding doors, with a smile, like, hey, look at me, I'm getting a blow job. Young without experience!

Well they go through some positions, but I notice he's just "in" the room. They are initiating everything. He's a zombie with a hard on and just taking directions. He shows her no personal attention and almost no interest even when she approaches him for some hugging and kissing. Then as the husband starts licking her pussy, he is sitting on the edge of the bed vaping with his back to them.

Well that eventually ends, and I run into him later. He's all disappointed because he says he never finished. He got sucked by her, got to fuck the most beautiful women there that night, and he's all disappointed that he never got off. I mean he was actually complaining! His attitude was so fucked up, I didn't even try to give any advice for next time.

Let me add some advice to you all though. When you are invited to a mfm in the swing world, you perform like you worship the female. Make her pleasure your mission in life. Show interest, lust, desire for her. Then give her a good fucking and show her a good time in every way they ask or every way that you can think of. Most will give back the same. Above all, make her feel sexy, wanted, lusted after, and that you appreciate it as a great experience for you. Grateful, sums it up.

Another aspect about swinging and sex play. There are times, you don't "get off. " There is sucking, fucking, fingering, tugging, and playing and although an orgasm is the ultimate reward, many times you'll do all that and not get off so you can do more later, or she just decides she's had enough and you're done. It's not uncommon for a woman to play with you, then smile and walk away, or suck you a little and literally stop and move on. Yes, it is a tease, but that is part of the sex play at times. Women can see you, and just want a taste. They can enjoy their power to do with you as they please, and stop, as they please. Be prepared for it. Enjoy the little sexual moments. Sex play doesn't' always lead to intercourse, or to an orgasm.

See Saturday night and I'll tell you more about "teasing. ".

Sorry but I have to say this. Don't vape while enjoying any kind of sex play.

[MaximusKahn]

Saturday night was a much larger crowd, more than double Friday night, and everyone was in a very open good spirited mood like Friday was. The big girls were there in numbers, and some I mean were very big.

There was some open play, and a couple of GB's that I got in some peripheral action on. But my highlight was getting the mmfm invite with a beauty who was teasing me earlier that night. This night I spotted a Hispanic couple with a very sexy woman who caught my eye. Fully equipped with C's plus, nice wide hips, full ass, with a shaved pussy. Beautiful, face, with a naughty smile.

This is the perfect example of being teased multiple time with no finish, but has a great ending.

First tease. She was sitting back leaning on husband with her legs wide open on a couch in the gang bang room. Crotch less mesh knit stocking, her beautiful pussy wide open. I asked to touch, she said "legs" so I rub her legs. After only a couples of seconds she moves one hand to her pussy. I gently play, then another guys comes up and speaks Spanish to her husband and her. Now he and I are both playing with her legs and pussy. 30 seconds later she says thank you, closes her legs and they get up and take him to a private room. I say thank you, and have to live with my half hard cock.

Second tease. I was watching some other action and when it ended, I walked by her, she waved me over. She asked got a condom? I said yes, she said put it on. I did. She sucked me for about 2 minutes, then her husband came over to get her. She said thank you and that was that. I smiled said thank you, she smiled back, and she went off with her hub to the couples' room. I pulled condom off, and went and washed my cock. Always want to be clean and fresh.

Later that night the third tease. I had some peripheral action in a GB and was standing there more than half-hard, as she walked by, she got a hand full and gave me a couple of gentle tugs with a big smile, then she let go and kept following her husband. That was that. I said thank you.

During my wandering, I came across this same couple in a mfm, in one of the rooms with the sliding glass doors. She was on her hands and knees facing out towards me, the hub was having his fun behind her while the another guy was to her side getting a hand job with some occasional sucking. I walked up to the doors to enjoy the show. We met eyes, she smiled, and I got the wave in! She asks got condom? I say yes. She literally says, get ready or get out! I was ready!

I won't go much further into detail, because I'm sure you know already, but I'll say it was a good time, and yes, I did finish as did she. She was beautiful, she was hot, and I made sure she knew it, and that I was there to please her. All three of us were. I was sure to thank her husband as much as I thanked her. It's with his blessing you get to be sucked by his wife and that you get to fuck her. So I treated him with respect as the man.

This night I noticed that many guys will fuck anything, and I do mean anything. One guy in particular was with one lady having open sex and at times eating her pussy. Not to be mean, but she wasn't attractive to me in any way. Then later that night I saw him fucking a very larger girl in one of the small rooms. Later I asked him how was the big girl? He said awesome. I was like, okay, to each his own. But, I'll admit it here, big girls just can't arouse me. Now that Thads seems to become big girl heaven, and they are getting sex, I do not think I'd be making this a primary plan for my weekends for a while. My easy rule is that I'm not attracted to any woman who outweighs me. A little extra on her bones is okay, but when it approaches fat, I'm just not into it. Sure Thads can be just a naked social event where nothing is guaranteed, but I do want some good eye candy to enjoy while I'm hoping to get some action.

It's a bad night when there are no women to fuck, but even more depressing when there are a lot of women, but none of them are attractive. I do enjoy live sexual action and shows, but I do not even want to see fat women being fucked. And I saw plenty of that going on.

Will I go back, sure? Will I rush back, maybe not for a little while? I wait till it gets deeper into summer as hopefully more women try to get in shape for beach time.

[NudeBeachPerv]

Based on the picture and the info you provided, it sounds to me like this is the lead-in to a "pig butchering" scam.

It could be. When I reverse imaged searched, I found an account that showed a female Andrew Tate (if that makes sense) as she was standing near expensive race cars and the picture with her boozing it up. (I'm very put off by heavy drinkers IRL.) Also the account seemed to be pretty new. The image doesn't seem to be clean enough to be AI.

[JerkieChan]

Got a phishing text from a 510 area code. It said they had me in their address book but no notes on who I was. This is a number I use mostly for parties and isn't publicly available.

I didn't respond.

Then they sent the attached pic. Asked "have we worked together?" Unsure if that was a reference to making adult content ala OF or throwing a party together. I never saw this broad in my life. My best guest is someone's party list got hacked and a bad actor is reaching out. No idea what the "end game" is.

Based on the picture and the info you provided, it sounds to me like this is the lead-in to a "pig butchering" scam.

[NudeBeachPerv]

Got a phishing text from a 510 area code. It said they had me in their address book but no notes on who I was. This is a number I use mostly for parties and isn't publicly available.

I didn't respond.

Then they sent the attached pic. Asked "have we worked together?" Unsure if that was a reference to making adult content ala OF or throwing a party together. I never saw this broad in my life. My best guest is someone's party list got hacked and a bad actor is reaching out. No idea what the "end game" is.

[MaximusKahn]

To clarify what we're talking about. The below topic is if you want to enter the lifestyle as a swinger. If that is the case, you will have to network, and as mentioned you will have better luck as a couple.

Private Swingers Sex parties are civilians, not professionals. They are in it to socialize, and enjoy sexual activities with friends, acquaintances, and sometimes with strangers. To get invited to this type of private party you will have to know the host, or be brought by a trusted member of the group who has permission to bring you. Of course single women are always welcome, but they too generally come with either a couple or an escort. A few are in the trusted social circle and may be invited to come alone. These types of parties tend to be a bit exclusive.

There are Swinger Parties that are hosted by organizations, but they too are focused on couples and often single women. They may be by invitation only, or could be open to swinger couples. Just have to find where they advertise and what the rules are. Get on the email distribution list if you can to learn of up and coming events.

If you're after a sex party where the women are service providers expecting to be paid that is a different category of sex party. You'll have to follow provider sites, as well as other sites that advertise about them.

Sex clubs, generally cater to couples and single women, but some allow men to attend.

It all depends on what type of sex party you're looking for.

Being a couple is the best way in.

All you need is a female with you, she doesn't have to be a 10 or a crazy horny woman in her 20's. You just need to show up with a woman.

There are women out there who don't want to go alone, and will welcome a male to go with her, and even possibly be there to help her feel safe in a a gang bang situation.

Once you get in, you can stay together, or you can split up, all depending on your arrangement.

Search the sites in your area for single women. Don't expect to find models, or 10's needing a male fuck buddy. Seek out the 5, 6, 7's who are also looking. Be honest in your search, "looking for a swing and swap partner to enjoy the swingers world".

I found a 6, a chubby red head to go play with. She and I would fuck now and then, but she loved a variety of cocks, but didn't want to go to the parties alone. I escorted her, and she got me in the door.

Worked out well.

[Rey KittyHawk]

Being a couple is the best way in.

All you need is a female with you, she doesn't have to be a 10 or a crazy horny woman in her 20's. You just need to show up with a woman.

There are women out there who don't want to go alone, and will welcome a male to go with her, and even possibly be there to help her feel safe in a a gang bang situation.

Once you get in, you can stay together, or you can split up, all depending on your arrangement.

Search the sites in your area for single women. Don't expect to find models, or 10's needing a male fuck buddy. Seek out the 5, 6, 7's who are also looking. Be honest in your search, "looking for a swing and swap partner to enjoy the swingers world".

I found a 6, a chubby red head to go play with. She and I would fuck now and then, but she loved a variety of cocks, but didn't want to go to the parties alone. I escorted her, and she got me in the door.

Worked out well.

All this is great advice from NBP, and the last line is true. You must do your OWN due diligence.

Entering the "lifestyle" is like finding out how to locate and buy things that are illegal. You have to get to know the people. This means you will need to meet couples and women who swing swap and do sex play. The swinger lifestyle is supported on trust and discretion. Many couples are closet swingers. Pillars of the community who really don't want everyone to know of there secret hobby.

You would be very surprised to learn who is very sexually active beyond the pale.

So you have to find out how to meet those who play, impress them, form a friendship, and gain their trust. If you're a single guy, the best advice I can share is to find a kinky fuck buddy who is willing to swing and swap with you. Once you have a woman with you, it will be much easier to enter the couples dominated sex party world.

Like everything, it's networking to forming connections.

[MaximusKahn]

All this is great advice from NBP, and the last line is true. You must do your OWN due diligence.

Entering the "lifestyle" is like finding out how to locate and buy things that are illegal. You have to get to know the people. This means you will need to meet couples and women who swing swap and do sex play. The swinger lifestyle is supported on trust and discretion. Many couples are closet swingers. Pillars of the community who really don't want everyone to know of there secret hobby.

You would be very surprised to learn who is very sexually active beyond the pale.

So you have to find out how to meet those who play, impress them, form a friendship, and gain their trust. If you're a single guy, the best advice I can share is to find a kinky fuck buddy who is willing to swing and swap with you. Once you have a woman with you, it will be much easier to enter the couples dominated sex party world.

Like everything, it's networking to forming connections.

Here are the websites for a few regular parties in San Diego:

https://www.thads.com

https://www.clubsafeword.com/sessions/new

https://luxxevents.club

As with anything do your due diligence.

[NudeBeachPerv]

Okay, some had asked my advice on what is a good party. I probably have different tastes than others here so I might presumably say things different than another poster. I will state that one will have a much easier time if they find a woman who would like to attend parties with them.

With that being said, what I look for. Some degree of consistency. Many parties happen one time and then never again. It could be a husband and wife renting a hotel and once they get it out of their system they are done (at least for awhile.) I like to see a party happen a few times before I go just to eliminate the scummiest of the scammiest. Also, I avoid those that ask for I'd or real names. While constitutional protections such as Freedom of Speech and Freedom of Assembly give some legal protection to your attending a party, I would not want to wind up on some federal database after a place is raided. If they have that data, they have it but if you make it a little harder to track it doesn't guarantee that you can't be tracked but it makes it tougher. The next thing is cash only. It might be one thing to Venmo someone once you know they are legit but for the first party do not send money to someone you have never met. After that, I would look for a party with multiple women attending and a party that is welcoming to single guys if attending as a single guy. Some parties most of the action goes on in a couples area and many / most single guys will not get an invite. After attending a few parties, you will get a read on which parties are better for single guys and some of the women who have a reputation for playing with single guys and showing up when / where they say they are showing. (I know some of these ladies and if they say they are going to be at X, Y, Z event it makes my interest in X, Y, Z that much higher, and, no I can't give that info out.) Parties that don't necessarily follow these patterns could be boom or they could be bust. And even after going to many events, I can't predict which will be great, but being a "known entity" and having a few women that have treated me well and I treat well in return, general makes the events better.

[NudeBeachPerv]

Here are the websites for a few regular parties in San Diego:

https://www.thads.com

https://www.clubsafeword.com/sessions/new

https://luxxevents.club

As with anything do your due diligence.

[NudeBeachPerv]

This is a story of a man who attended an event hosted by a porn star:

https://nightrollergame.wordpress.co...irthday-party/

A couple of points, he brings up that it is much easier to be relaxed when sex is virtually guaranteed. I think this sums up why I don't enjoy parties like Thads. Some of the guys are really pushy and the scarcity / competition vibe promotes this. He also breaks down the expenses. So whether dating, "mongering" or attending events, guys are "paying for it."

[NudeBeachPerv]

The rule of all guys being naked, regardless of the original reason, seems to be a good rule.

Guys can't hide. If you let guys be dressed you'll get more creeps and gawkers, and lurkers. More would go just to look. Like the creeps on the bluffs over Blacks beach who peep at the nudists with binoculars and telescopes.

If you got to be naked, you're like everyone else, a participant, and can't hide.

The women get to see what "physical" traits you have. So it gives the women the power of choice, and may even be erotic for some who like to look. And believe me, many lucky guys are chosen because she can see all he has.

Guys naked seems to humble guys, and possibly makes them less aggressive. I mean who wants to get into a fight in your birthday suit with your cock flopping around and your nuts in the wind?

It also lets the women see who's confident. There are lurkers who hide behind their towels, or now hide in their robes, but you'll also see the confident guys who proudly display all.

It's surprising how many guys are shy, or perhaps insecure yet participate because they have to. So even those who come to look, have to show too.

If having to be naked is holding you back, I'm not sure how you expect to enjoy a sex party clothed, but I say Thads is not for you.

For me, one of the most pleasurable experiences was standing by the edge of the dance floor and having women in thong panties grind against me and then admire how their work had effected me. One or two times this lead to receiving oral on the edge of the dance floor with an onlooking crowd. With all of that being said, I prefer an environment where one can be clothed in the lounge area and then is naked in the play area. For example the front room in a hotel and the bedroom.

As you mentioned Blacks Beach, I just have to mention that it took a few visits to get accustomed to nudity in a public situation and I understand a new guys reservations.

[MaximusKahn]

The rule of all guys being naked, regardless of the original reason, seems to be a good rule.

Guys can't hide. If you let guys be dressed you'll get more creeps and gawkers, and lurkers. More would go just to look. Like the creeps on the bluffs over Blacks beach who peep at the nudists with binoculars and telescopes.

If you got to be naked, you're like everyone else, a participant, and can't hide.

The women get to see what "physical" traits you have. So it gives the women the power of choice, and may even be erotic for some who like to look. And believe me, many lucky guys are chosen because she can see all he has.

Guys naked seems to humble guys, and possibly makes them less aggressive. I mean who wants to get into a fight in your birthday suit with your cock flopping around and your nuts in the wind?

It also lets the women see who's confident. There are lurkers who hide behind their towels, or now hide in their robes, but you'll also see the confident guys who proudly display all.

It's surprising how many guys are shy, or perhaps insecure yet participate because they have to. So even those who come to look, have to show too.

If having to be naked is holding you back, I'm not sure how you expect to enjoy a sex party clothed, but I say Thads is not for you.

Thad's has a very interesting history and the OG owner was a bit of a Larry Flyntesque character who got in a few legal battles with the City of San Diego.

https://www.sandiegoreader.com/news/...e-hubba-hubba/

They own a unique license which my understanding is the cops can't raid them for throwing sex parties. Now, my opinion on this is that they had operated for many years as a monopoly and let things go such as the maintenance of the place and ensuring that guests had a good experience. They could take the attitude of "take it or leave it" and many took it. In my opinion, it is better that there are now other options.

As far as the nudity, I have heard two different stories. IDK which one is true or if neither are true. One was that Mr. Thad was gay and he enjoyed seeing nude men. The other was that heavy drinking Marines were less likely to throw fists if they were full nude.

[NudeBeachPerv]

The ages range from 20's to 70 over any given time. But in general it's 30's and 40's with some younger an some older. If you're hoping for 20 something horny female spinners to be there, there are times they are there, but you shouldn't expect too many.

I'm more about attractiveness than age as a number, because I've found that any age female can be attractive to me, just depends on the female. I've been fortunate to play with women in their 20's and women in their 60's. And enjoyed them all.

You are right about the all men are naked rule. During the winter they now allow guys to wear a robe, you can even rent one, so go check it out and see what it is all about.

Thad's has a very interesting history and the OG owner was a bit of a Larry Flyntesque character who got in a few legal battles with the City of San Diego.

https://www.sandiegoreader.com/news/...e-hubba-hubba/

They own a unique license which my understanding is the cops can't raid them for throwing sex parties. Now, my opinion on this is that they had operated for many years as a monopoly and let things go such as the maintenance of the place and ensuring that guests had a good experience. They could take the attitude of "take it or leave it" and many took it. In my opinion, it is better that there are now other options.

As far as the nudity, I have heard two different stories. IDK which one is true or if neither are true. One was that Mr. Thad was gay and he enjoyed seeing nude men. The other was that heavy drinking Marines were less likely to throw fists if they were full nude.

[MaximusKahn]

The ages range from 20's to 70 over any given time. But in general it's 30's and 40's with some younger an some older. If you're hoping for 20 something horny female spinners to be there, there are times they are there, but you shouldn't expect too many.

I'm more about attractiveness than age as a number, because I've found that any age female can be attractive to me, just depends on the female. I've been fortunate to play with women in their 20's and women in their 60's. And enjoyed them all.

You are right about the all men are naked rule. During the winter they now allow guys to wear a robe, you can even rent one, so go check it out and see what it is all about.

I've always been curious about Thads but I will never go based upon their rules of men having to be naked. What is the typical age range though of Thads?